Monthly Archives: April 2010

The Answer: Glass Tables!

I’ve received a few emails, texts, and phone calls about a phrase I used at the end of a post a couple weeks ago, wanting me to talk more about the subject:

“Clarity is often too clear to see.”

We’ve all been there… the answer to our most difficult challenge was staring at us directly in the eye the entire time, but for some reason was too cloudy to see. I contend that it wasn’t cloudy at all. I believe these obstacles are often too clear to see. Our minds make them cloudy, sometimes as a defense mechanism, other times due to fear of the unknown. Whatever the reason, it’s important for us to understand the harder we look for the answer, the more difficult it becomes to find… as if we were staring right through it.
An example I like to use is that of a glass table…
Depending on how we look at it, we either see what’s on top of the table, what’s under it, or we’re able to see our reflection. If we glance at the table quickly and superficially, we’ll simply see the obvious… those things on top of the table. If we search a little deeper, the challenges on top become blurry as we stare through the glass, and are able to see what’s under the table. Those two are relatively simple… and is how most of us search for answers. The more difficult solution is being able to make the junk on top blurry, not allowing our eyes to focus on what’s under the table, making them concentrate on our own reflection. 
Too often, we don’t want to see that reflection, as it becomes difficult to acknowledge what’s staring back. Not only is it more physically challenging to see the image in the glass, but it’s mentally and emotionally demanding as well. What’s on top of and below the table is simple to see, and is what we usually choose as the answer to our personal confrontations. This is why many tend to spin round and round, rarely moving forward enough to make a difference. 
Clarity begins with what’s staring back at us. It only becomes too clear to see if we choose to look somewhere else!

Doing Vs. Being: Totally Different!

As I walked my little Logan around the neighborhood this morning, I began thinking about how much I’ve changed in the last 14 months. When we strolled around town the first few months, I felt as if this is what I did. I even felt a little self conscious, knowing people were looking at the “new daddy with his little baby — how cute.”

Again, I felt this is something that I did.

Walking with Logan this morning, I realized this isn’t something I do anymore… this is who I am! I’m her father, she’s my daughter – I need her as much as she needs me. We’re connected by a force that’s unexplainable to those who haven’t experienced parenthood. I’m now being a dad, rather than doing fatherhood. Every minute of the day is spent as “dada” (as she likes to remind me), which means it’s as much a part of me as my heart, blood, and oxygen I breathe.

Being a father isn’t something I do from the outside… it’s who I am from the inside!

Looking at our daily lives, what can we switch from doing to becoming? When we wake up in the morning, are we eating a healthier breakfast because we have to, or because this is now who we are and who we’ve become? When it’s time to workout, are we doing or being, meaning is it something that we force on ourselves, or has it become part of our souls?

I have a student who wants to run a marathon, but knows it’s going to take a large amount of change in her mind and body to accomplish. My daily question for her is, “are you becoming the runner from the inside-out… or are you simply doing your daily workouts from the outside-in? When will this marathon become part of your DNA?” 


Doing and being don’t sound very different, but truly are from different worlds. It’s easy to do what you need to do, but becoming that person… living those goals and motivations is what really creates that ‘new us’ for the long term. 

Let me ask again: What are we doing on a daily basis that we should be mentally switching to becoming, living, being? When we turn down that soda because it has 46g of sugar, are we doing it because we know too much sugar isn’t a good thing… or are we living a life without it because it’s who we are now, and who we’ll always be? The two don’t sound very different, but the first is a short term adjustment… the latter is a long term, life altering decision.

I look at Logan, and I see myself… I see who I’ve become!

You?

Are You Brave Enough To Take Action?

I want to congratulate Josh for his drive and willingness to put it all on the line. He’s definitely an inspiration to all of us who have a dream, and are attempting to make it come true.
Know what you want, create a visual blueprint, and take massive action!
He and I were filmed and interviewed about his amazing journey of trying to make it to the NFL at the “young” age of 38. 
CNN has picked up the story, and will be running it soon.
Click on the link below to see our version of his process…

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