I Like Commitments Better

Happy New Year! Instead of resolutions, make commitments!

Commit to a new mindset, beliefs, and actions. Live these, rather than only talking about them. Become these commitments, beginning with every morning you wake. Stare at yourself in the mirror and look within… deeper than ever before.

Your mindset is there, waiting to maximize it’s potential. Like many other things in your life, it won’t make you change. It will wait and wait… until you’re ready to step another type of path. When you do finally commit to those steps, it will take you places you’ve only heard others talk about.

Commit to a new way of looking at people around you. They’re struggling with their own challenges. Remember this always. When you’re tempted to bark… say you understand instead.

We only have DO or DON’T. The word, “try” doesn’t exist. Don’t try anymore… DO! Do now. If not now, then when?

My thoughts are with you, as this new path is created.

Before & After The 1% Mindset!

This next 1% story comes from a former football player, turned golfer. He’s composed, quiet, and a total fighter. When we met, he was afraid of all the negative, making that negative manifest in his life. On the golf course, he continued to focus on all the things he didn’t want to happen. His mind could only see the potential mistakes, and thought it was out of his control. We immediately began working on what he thought and said to himself. Our biggest goal for Darell was to help him see the possibilities, and help him believe he could have anything he worked for. The only person that could keep him from reaching his goals was him… specifically his thoughts, words, and actions. By changing his thought process,  his self-talk and actions immediately changed, giving him better results. 

This is his before-and-after the 1% mindset:

Before 1%, I was just a person who thought I was a good golfer, and thought I was on the right track by practicing everyday. I really wasn’t because there is totally more to it then that. Just “TRYING” wasn’t working, but I kept telling myself it would. Basically, I was just going out everyday working and changing my swing as I went because I felt that I must be doing something wrong since I’m not even playing close to how I should be. I was so inconsistent. One day I would shoot a 71,72 and the next day it would be 80,82. It was ridiculous and irritating because I just wasn’t getting better, and feeling like I was reaching my plateau. I knew my mental game had a part to do with how I wasn’t succeeding. I made all sorts of excuses besides my mental game, such as needing better clubs, better coach, and should be playing better courses. You name it, I made the excuse for my poor play. I only made those excuses because I needed some sort of safety blanket to make me feel better about myself on reasons why I did horrible, rather then just accepting the fact I played bad. In reality, I was just scared on the golf course. I was scared of failure, but in order to succeed we must fail first. It had been so long since something good  happened. I was waiting for something to just magically happen, and felt by practicing everyday, it would somehow just randomly hit me one day. Thus, if I kept waiting, I would still be waiting… and wouldn’t have gotten anywhere near to where I am today.

 Now with the 1% mindset, it has totally (and I mean totally) changed how I look, not just at my golf game, but with life as well. Working with Coach Dayne has honestly changed my life for the better. It has taught me to become so much more positive and have a lot more confidence, rather then being scared all the time. Being scared is just a roadblock, and will set you back from making any progress. Doing things to be separated from the pack is what it’s all about! In order to separate, you must do things others aren‘t willing to do; being uncomfortable in order to become truly comfortable. When others make excuses about the cold, the wind, or the greens being too slow, for example, I just use that to my advantage. I WILL not let something like that effect how I play my game because that is just an EXCUSE, and therefore a safety blanket. 

My mindset now is not that I need new clubs, better coach, or be playing the best courses in the world. Instead, I’m focused on having a better mindset. My mindset, alone, will change my game. I can have the best swing in the world, but by having the wrong mindset, “perfect swing” will fold under pressure when I need it most! Working the mental aspect is crucial to success, because without it, I will just be AVERAGE. Who wants to be AVERAGE? I definitely don’t! 

I recently changed my mindset, and am realizing how powerful the mind really is!!!! Perfect example for me that made it crystal clear: I learned that by trying NOT TO HIT IT OUT OF BOUNDS, my mind never heard the “don’t,” actually making me hit it out. It had been only responding to “hit it out of bounds.” If my mind can make me hit it out, then it could also make me HIT IT DOWN THE MIDDLE. All I had to do was begin focusing on exactly what I wanted, rather than what I was afraid of. That showed me just how powerful my mind really was, so why not use it to help me focus on the positive thoughts instead of all the negative?  

Lastly, one of the biggest things I learned from being 1% is living EXCUSE free! Being EXCUSE free made my life so much easier, and instantly freed my mind… resulting in better and more positive results. I could go on all day about how this way of thinking has truly changed my life. The 1% mindset has gotten me this far, totally changing how I think and act. I’ll never be satisfied. I’ll always want more! 

Derell Aton
(Future PGA Tour player)

Big Things Happening!

Stay tuned for some huge updates about the progress of some of my students. It’s impossible to mention all their incredible accomplishments, so if I don’t mention YOU, I apologize.

I’ve been going pretty heavy on Twitter, which has been awesome… and helped me meet many more future 1% stars. 44 year old Southern California golf pro Bill Ranson (@golferBill), soon to be 45 year old Touring rookie, will be featured at www.nbcsports.com. Not only is he laying it all on the line to turn pro, but is also going to play 24 straight hours of golf to raise money for the Children’s Make A Wish Foundation.  Can’t wait to join him for that experience. 24 hours!! Bill is 1% on and off the course.

Derell Aton (@Tourboy10) is former football stud, turned golfer… now in college, and making his way to 1%. The confidence he’s shown in the last month has been shocking, actually. There’s no doubt he’ll be playing big time golf at the next level. I’ll be featuring him here in the next couple of days. Stay tuned for his “before and after” 1%.

Of course, there’s Mareon Smit (@MareonSmit167). What more can I possibly say about her? I’ve written countless number of posts on this 1% master (only 17 years old, remember). She’s fought back from serious illness, never thought about quitting, and is now on the road to the LPGA. Other than my wife and daughter, she’s my #1 hero! I’ve learned more from her than I’ve taught her. My little two year old will grow up to know her… and know her well!!

I met Craig Swinburn recently (@craigswinburn), who’s battling the European mini tours, but will soon step it up to the next level. He, Bill, and I have an ongoing bet of who will shoot the lowest round this year. As I was talking trash to them yesterday, it occurred to me that these two guys are PROFESSIONALS… and I’m… errr… NOT! What was I thinking? I’m really excited to work more with this future Touring Pro. 1% is our only goal for him!

I also recently met Davee Blair (@therealDLB3), who’s on a journey to go from a 30 handicap to scratch. This guy is definitely passionate about making it happen. He’s currently dropped his handicap down to a 19, which is huge… but will soon be tested, mentally, as he gets closer to single digits. His willingness to reach the 1% is awesome, and I look forward to working more with him. Check the details of his journey at www.30toscratch.blogspot.com.

Of course there are more, and I love them all. They’ve all made me the teacher I am. I truly believe I’m as much of a student as I am a teacher. I believe in every single one of you 1% searchers, and know it will happen for you!

Keep stepping. Left foot. Right foot. 1% only!

1% At Her Finest (A Mareon Update)

Here’s the latest on Mareon, the 17 year old I wrote about in my last post:

After battling a mysterious illness for most of 2010, Mareon has been cured!! The doctors had tested her for everything from Lupus to Cancer, finding nothing. After being rushed to the hospital two weeks ago, they found an infected gallbladder, which subsequently was infecting the rest of her body. They removed the gallbladder and promised her a full recovery.

Through all of this, Mareon has stayed strong, kept fighting like no other I’ve ever seen, and promised to never quit. We talk nearly every day, and one thing that’s a constant with her: An understanding that this ordeal has, and will continue to make her stronger. She doesn’t talk like this to make herself sound tough… she really IS this tough. She always knew what being 1% meant on paper, but she now knows what it feels like in her core. She understands the importance of punching back when road blocks throw their best shot, and now can see the direct result of the fight.

Through all the tears of frustration, came a confidence and inner strength that will carry her past all future challenges. This 17 year old can (and WILL) do anything she wants in life. Her immediate goal: Play professional golf on the LPGA. There’s no doubt she’ll make it to the Tour, but I have a sneaking suspicion she’ll be living a life of inspiration and motivation to more than just golf fans.

“If I can fight through this, NOTHING can ever stop me. 1% is how I live, what I do, and who I am!”

-Mareon






She's Only 17! (A MUST READ)

Next time you want to whine and complain about something trivial, I want you to remember this name: Mareon! If anyone has a right to complain about her circumstances, she definitely does… but chooses not to. As a matter of fact, instead of complaining, she actually thanks God for the opportunity to grow stronger from her experiences. 


Mareon is 17 years old and dreams of playing golf professionally on the LPGA. “Dream” doesn’t quite explain the magnitude of her goal. She lives and breathes golf, all while earning straight A’s in school, and staying as level headed as one can be. She’s more mature than most 30 year olds I’ve met, and treats everyone like gold. To say she was ahead of her time wouldn’t do justice to her. She’s unlike anyone I’ve ever met, and I believe with every ounce of my being that she’ll be earning a living in between the ropes.


This isn’t a story about a girl and her goals, though. This is about the intensity of her fight; her unwillingness to quit. Where 99% of us would’ve moved on to another dream, she keeps throwing punches in the face of more adversity than most adults face in a lifetime. 


I began working with Mareon last May. In June, she informed me that she hadn’t been feeling well, and the Dr.’s didn’t know what was wrong. She was extremely tired, didn’t have an appetite, and was losing weight. Already athletic, she didn’t have any room for more weight loss. Her energy level was at 50% at the time, but she continued to practice 6 days/wk. Still, the Dr.’s said they’d definitely find out what was making her sick. 


Test after test, but still no answers. Every diagnosis under the sun was given, but with every blood test, came a big fat NEGATIVE. They thought it could be (X) virus, Lupus, and they even tested for cancer. Can you believe this poor 17 year old had to face the possibility of having cancer? And still… Mareon kept practicing and actually playing tournaments. 


In September, her energy level was down to 25%, yet quitting was out of the question. While most people wouldn’t even be able to get out of bed, she not only found a way to put both feet on the ground, but also kept fighting to improve her golf game and keep her grades up… zero complaining. So little whining actually, that every week we met (twice/wk.), I thought she had made a miraculous recovery. She looked, walked, and acted completely normal with normal energy levels (in my eyes). Little did I know, she was constantly on the verge of tears , as she could barely find the energy to swing her club. Still, stopping or quitting never exited her mouth. Whenever I suggested she take some time off, she would exclaim, 

“I’m never quitting! This will never break me! I’m making the Tour, so get your butt back out here with me, Dayne. Let’s go. Time to work!”

November came and went, and still no answers. Blood test after blood test came back with nothing… no one knew what this mystery illness was, and why it was draining Mareon’s system. By now, I don’t have to tell you that she kept battling every day, no matter her level of strength. She was determined to be 1%. In her mind, only the rest of the pack would quit. 

This month, a mini-discovery was made. The Dr.’s determined her liver wasn’t working properly, and what ever was wrong would be found by testing it. This time, a simple blood test wouldn’t do the trick. She was going to have to endure a painful liver biopsy, where they shoot a huge gun-like needle into her liver. Very often, the first attempt isn’t successful, as the needle doesn’t always pull out a big enough sample size. Mareon prayed it would only take one time; one needle probe into her 17 year old liver. Her prayers were answered. The long needle did it’s job, and she wouldn’t have to endure another biopsy. Even as she lay on her side for two hours and her back for an additional hour recovering, she promised this would only make her stronger. 

Let me remind you once again: She’s only 17!

It has been almost a week since that biopsy, and Mareon has been recovering well. Lots of pain, but nothing this warrior couldn’t handle. I saw her yesterday on my way back from a lesson, she and her mom loaded my car full of toys for my two year old daughter, and was in great spirits. She’s a fighter and will battle through anything. I was amazed at how good she looked so soon after her biopsy.

10:00 last night, my phone went crazy… text after text, informing me that Mareon was rushed to the Emergency Room, unable to breathe. What the hell is going on? How could this be happening to her? All she wants to do is play golf for a living, make her parents and God proud, and live a selfless life. Why is she having to face such brutalities at this young age? 

The Dr.’s in the ER got her breathing under control, took some tests, and concluded she needed to have her Gallbladder removed. They said the pain was so severe (worse than childbirth), that often times makes it impossible to breathe. She’s scheduled for surgery today at 2:00. As I’m writing this, I’m texting her mom, asking for updates. Mareon’s doing as well as expected (better than most I’m sure), and is awaiting an MRI to come back. 

Let me remind you: She’s only 17!

There’s no doubt Mareon will come through this on top, as she always does. With these challenges she’s had to face, a stronger, more determined young woman will arise… if that’s even possible. If you believe in God, Pray. If not, please have her in your thoughts. She’s a true inspiration for us all.

And keep your eyes on the LPGA. When you see her on t.v., you’ll know how hard she worked, and all she fought to achieve her dream. 1% always!

It's Never Too Late!

I was recently reminded that it’s never too late to fight for our passions and goals. Too often, I hear, “It’s too late, I’m too old, or I should’ve tried when I was younger.” 


Bill Ranson, 44 year old PGA teaching pro laughs at the above excuses. He’s made a decision to be a 45 year old rookie on the PGA TOUR, and will film a documentary on his journey to attaining that goal. After speaking with him on the phone for the first time last week, I was totally convinced he will be teeing off with the big boys in the future. Almost daily, I talk with people of all different walks of life (not just athletes) who say they want bigger and better, but rarely do I come across someone who makes me believe they’re willing to do whatever it takes. Bill’s part of this 1%.


Within five minutes of our conversation, he had me on my feet, pacing back and forth like a caged lion. I wanted to help him right then! I wanted to jump through the phone, get him on the course, and attack every one of his mental game challenges.

All Bill talked about was why he was going to achieve… when he was going to make it… how he was going to succeed. Sure, we mentioned his weaknesses, but only in terms of how he was going to turn them into strengths. This guy is all about possibilities; the 1%! This golf pro from Southern California absolutely knows he will be playing on the PGA TOUR, period.

Stay tuned for Bill’s progress through this amazing journey, as I will be updating his steps as we work together.

(On a side note: When Bill receives 1500 followers on Twitter, he’s going to play 24 straight hours of golf, in hopes of raising thousands of dollars for the Make A Wish Foundation. Follow him at http://twitter.com/golferbill).

Bill Ranson: Truly 1%, on and off the golf course!!
http://www.billransongolf.com/Welcome.html







I Will

After reading so many of Your Stories, I have to post some of my thoughts:

The amount of fight, courage, and ability to keep steppin’ has been eye-opening. It’s truly made me look in the mirror and ask myself if I’m doing all I possibly can, not only with my own path, but with those around me. I have a feeling the answer may always be “no.” Isn’t there always more to be done… even when we think all forms of action have been taken? I’m not sure I know the answer, but I do know I’ll keep asking the question.

A common theme that continued to show it’s face, no matter the subject of the story, was “I will…” Even during the most frustrating and challenging journeys, the end result was always, “Nothing will keep me from what I want. It was / is difficult, but I will…” This is a lesson for all of us, no matter our specific paths. Nothing can hold us from reaching whatever goal(s) we passionately want. Actually, I lied. The only thing that can keep us from achieving is us; our mindsets.

If we focus our thoughts, words, beliefs, and actions to our destination… nothing is strong enough. In all of these stories, they made a conscious decision to keep throwing punches, never taking no for an answer. They all had the opportunity to stop, put their faces in their hands, and quit… instead, all chose “I will.”

Will you choose to look at your reflection and only see the possibilities, especially when there doesn’t seem to be any? This is our daily challenge, isn’t it: Staring deep inside and admitting we may have been ducking this vulnerability. The answers we want will never come until we first tell ourselves, “I have the ability to…” “I’m going to do whatever it takes to achieve…” “I WILL.”

Be the 1%!

Your Story: "Epiphany"

Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. There’s so much to be thankful for. Remember to focus on what we have, rather than dwelling on what we don’t.

This next story is about the fight. Phil’s found his truth… his epiphany!

Email me Your Story at dgingo@cox.net.

“Epiphany”


Hi, my name is Phil. I’m a survivor!

I’m a survivor of hate and prejudice, of a society that believes beauty is skin deep, and a person’s self worth is based on their appearance.

I’m a survivor of an abusive father and two suicide attempts. But more importantly, I’m a survivor of my own doubts and fears.


You see, I’ve always been the largest child / adult in a group and I can’t really recall a time when I wasn’t.  The sad things is that over the years I’d convinced myself that I didn’t care about my size, and that I was happy and content with my life. I had tried in the past to lose weight, but whenever I’d failed (which I always did), I simply convinced myself that it didn’t really matter, and that I was happy with my size. I was only doing it to please my friends and family.


So what changed? 


Really, my story begins in the summer of 2008. I’d rejoined Weight Watchers and had been following the plan for several months.  I’d been quite successful and had lost just over 50 lbs in weight. However, by mid-January of 09′, I was feeling really depressed. Despite having some very close friends, I just felt so alone and unable to convey or communicate my feelings to anyone – so much so, that by mid March I was contemplating suicide. By the end of March, my feelings of self-loathing and hate for myself drove me to take an overdose Obviously, I failed. I also failed with my second attempt, which occurred in mid-April.  Despite these failures, my feelings hadn’t changed and I was determined to end my life. Through all this, I just wouldn’t talk to anyone.  At the end of April, I prepared for another attempt. No one at that time knew that I had attempted to kill myself, but my feelings of inadequacy and loathing continued to grow day by day.  I continued to become more distant from friends, and would deny anything was wrong when they approached me in concern. In my own head, I thought that they were just being kind to me out of pity. I wondered how anyone could like someone so disgustingly obese.  I was desperate and just wanted it to be over. 


So what changed?


Well, I saw a music video on YouTube.  Now it probably sounds silly that one song could have changed someone’s path so radically, especially one so self-destructive. Certainly it wasn’t the only thing that happened to divert my course, but it was the catalyst.  It was like a release. I watched the video almost hundreds of times, sobbing my heart out. I rang the Samaritans, and more importantly I told my friends. I confided in the people that I trusted the most and they gladly shared my burden.  On May 13th 2009, I walked into my Weight Watchers meeting, and for the first time got on the scales feeling that I was doing this for me. Win or lose, this was my journey, this was my climb, and my mountain to overcome.  The last 18 months haven’t always been a smooth ride. There have been trips and falls along with all the successes, but more importantly, the journeys continuing. I’m not perfect and I hope I never will be, but I definitely had an epiphany.  Self Worth comes from within not from other peoples opinions!! We’re all individual, unique and wonderful.


Oh and the song that changed it all for me  was “The Climb” by Miley Cyrus:
 “It’s not about the Destination, It’s about The Climb”




Phil
Phil-theincredibleshrinkingman.blogspot.com

Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving… so much to be thankful for. It’s so easy to focus on what we don’t have; what we wish we had. Instead, make a daily habit of remembering how lucky we are. There’s always someone worse-off than us.

This next story is all about fighting and figuring out what “It’s” all about. Phil has discovered his truth… his epiphany. He continues to keep stepping, day after day, moment after moment.

Send me Your Story at dgingo@cox.net.


“Epiphany”

Hi, my name’s Phil and I’m a survivor!

I’m a survivor of hate and prejudice, of a society that believes beauty is skin deep, and that a person’s worth is based on their appearance.

I’m a survivor of an abusive father and two suicide attempts.  But more importantly I’m a survivor of my own doubts and fears.

You see, I’ve always been the largest child / adult in a group and I can’t recall a time when I wasn’t.  The sad things is that over the years, I’d convinced myself that I didn’t care about my size and that I was happy and content with my life. I had tried in the past to lose weight, but whenever I’d failed (which I always did), I simply convinced myself that it didn’t really matter – and that I was happy with my size, and was only doing it to please my friends and family.

So what changed? 

Really, my story begins in the summer of 2008. I rejoined Weight Watchers and had been following the plan for several months. I’d been quite successful, and had lost just over 50 lbs in weight however by mid-January of 09′, I was feeling really depressed.  Despite having some very close friends, I just felt so alone and unable to convey or communicate my feelings to anyone… so much so, that by mid March I was contemplating suicide. By the end of March, my feelings of self-loathing and hate for myself drove me to take an overdose. Obviously I failed. I also failed with my second attempt which occurred in mid-April. Despite these failures, my feelings hadn’t changed, and I was determined to end my life. Through all this, I just wouldn’t talk to anyone. 

At the end of April, I prepared for another attempt. No one at that time knew that I had attempted to kill myself, but my feelings of inadequacy and loathing continued to grow day by day. I continued to become more distant from friends, and would deny anything was wrong when they approached me in concern. In my own head, I thought that they were just being kind to me out of pity; I wondered how anyone could like someone so disgustingly obese.  I was desperate and just wanted it to be over. 

So what changed?

Well, I saw a music video on YouTube.  Now it probably sounds silly that one song could have changed someone’s path so radically, especially one so self-destructive. Certainly, it wasn’t the only thing that happened to divert my course, but it was the catalyst.  It was like a release – I watched the video, maybe a hundred of times, sobbing my heart out. I rang the Samaritans and more importantly I told my friends. I confided in the people that I trusted the most and they gladly shared my burden. On May 13th, 2009 I walked into my Weight Watchers meeting, and for the first time got on the scales feeling that I was doing this for me. Win or lose, this was my journey, this was my climb, and my mountain to overcome. 

The last 18 months haven’t always been a smooth ride. There have been trips and falls along with all the successes, but more importantly the journeys continuing. I’m not perfect, and I hope I never will be, but I definitely had an epiphany. Self Worth comes from within not from other’s opinions. We’re all individual, unique and wonderful.

Oh and the song that changed it all for me was “The Climb,” by Miley Cyrus:

“It’s not about the destination… it’s about the climb!”

-Phil

Your Story: "Epiphany"



Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving… so much to be thankful for. It’s so easy to focus on what we don’t have; what we wish we had. Instead, make a daily habit of remembering how lucky we are. There’s always someone worse-off than us.


This next story is all about fighting and figuring out what “It’s” all about. Phil has discovered his truth… his epiphany. He continues to keep stepping, day after day, moment after moment.

Send me Your Story at dgingo@cox.net.


“Epiphany”

Hi, my name’s Phil and I’m a survivor!

I’m a survivor of hate and prejudice, of a society that believes beauty is skin deep, and that a person’s worth is based on their appearance.

I’m a survivor of an abusive father and two suicide attempts.  But more importantly I’m a survivor of my own doubts and fears.
You see, I’ve always been the largest child / adult in a group and I can’t recall a time when I wasn’t.  The sad things is that over the years, I’d convinced myself that I didn’t care about my size and that I was happy and content with my life. I had tried in the past to lose weight, but whenever I’d failed (which I always did), I simply convinced myself that it didn’t really matter – and that I was happy with my size, and was only doing it to please my friends and family.
So what changed? 
Really, my story begins in the summer of 2008. I rejoined Weight Watchers and had been following the plan for several months. I’d been quite successful, and had lost just over 50 lbs in weight however by mid-January of 09′, I was feeling really depressed.  Despite having some very close friends, I just felt so alone and unable to convey or communicate my feelings to anyone… so much so, that by mid March I was contemplating suicide. By the end of March, my feelings of self-loathing and hate for myself drove me to take an overdose. Obviously I failed. I also failed with my second attempt which occurred in mid-April. Despite these failures, my feelings hadn’t changed, and I was determined to end my life. Through all this, I just wouldn’t talk to anyone. 

At the end of April, I prepared for another attempt. No one at that time knew that I had attempted to kill myself, but my feelings of inadequacy and loathing continued to grow day by day. I continued to become more distant from friends, and would deny anything was wrong when they approached me in concern. In my own head, I thought that they were just being kind to me out of pity; I wondered how anyone could like someone so disgustingly obese.  I was desperate and just wanted it to be over. 
So what changed?
Well, I saw a music video on YouTube.  Now it probably sounds silly that one song could have changed someone’s path so radically, especially one so self-destructive. Certainly, it wasn’t the only thing that happened to divert my course, but it was the catalyst.  It was like a release – I watched the video, maybe a hundred of times, sobbing my heart out. I rang the Samaritans and more importantly I told my friends. I confided in the people that I trusted the most and they gladly shared my burden. On May 13th, 2009 I walked into my Weight Watchers meeting, and for the first time got on the scales feeling that I was doing this for me. Win or lose, this was my journey, this was my climb, and my mountain to overcome. 

The last 18 months haven’t always been a smooth ride. There have been trips and falls along with all the successes, but more importantly the journeys continuing. I’m not perfect, and I hope I never will be, but I definitely had an epiphany. Self Worth comes from within not from other’s opinions. We’re all individual, unique and wonderful.
Oh and the song that changed it all for me was “The Climb,” by Miley Cyrus:


“It’s not about the destination… it’s about the climb!”

-Phil